accepting the 95%

A good friend is dealing with a health concern, and is going in for testing today. When I was telling her how concerned I am for her, she mad the comment that 95% of life is out of our control. I was thinking about how the experience of being a caregiver brought that realization home for me. We have no idea. Life is not just, it just is. People get sick, they need help, they inconvenience us, we love them, we deal with reality. One of the first things we give up us our need to control. But when we do, it makes it a lot easier to give up whatever else we have to give up. Life on life's terms, not our terms.